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Things A Woman Can Do to Spice Up The Bedroom

Spice Up The Bedroom

No matter how much experience you have with sex, at some point, you have wondered what you can do as a woman to spice things up in the bedroom. That isn't uncommon, spicing things up helps to prevent sex from feeling repetitive or boring. No matter how much your partner tries to spice things up, it takes two to tango and you need to do your part too. Let's take a look at some of the things that you can do to spice things up in the bedroom.

Turn up The Sexy Talk

One of the first steps that you can take to help spice up your time in the bedroom is to turn up the sexy talk. Let him know during sex what you are enjoying, give him soft instructions, and make more noises in general. In many cases sexy talk is not capitalized on during sex but it can do a lot.

A reason why some people don't capitalize on sexy talk during time in the bedroom is that they fear that they will sound cheesy or weird. As long as you work to be natural and use sexy talk when it fits with what you are doing, it will help to make the experience even better.

Encourage New Positions

Using the same sex position over and over will obviously get boring. Encouraging your partner to try new positions can be another easy way to add some spice in the bedroom. The obvious way to try new positions is to talk to him about positions he wants to try. For some people this works but it can also be a little straight forward.

Setting your partner up for these new positions by assuming them during bedroom playtime will be more impromptu and add more spice. There are many charts on the internet that will cover sex positions if you want ideas on some of the other sex positions you can try.

Have a Discussion About Fantasies

Taking time to discuss fantasies with your partner gives you a chance to add personal spice to the bedroom. Talk with your lover about what he has always fantasized about, at least ones that are realistic. Come up with plans to try each fantasy and then carry them out.

Don't forget that his fantasies aren't the only ones that will spice up the bedroom. Talk about your fantasies too!

Take Charge

In most cases women in the bedroom let the man take charge just out of stereotypical roles. Changing that up can be one of the first things that you can do to add some spice to your bedroom. Reading up on being a female dominant online can help you to develop some of the skills you need to take charge in the bedroom.

We will also let you in on a little secret, many men love when a woman takes charge. A female dominant doesn't have to be someone who is demanding or gives strict orders. They can also be seductive and suggestive as they tell you what to do.

Buy Some Toys

Many women have a toy for when they need to give themselves pleasure but not many bring it into the bedroom with their partner. Adding a toy to your play can enhance the experience quite a lot. Not only can it make foreplay more interesting, it can make it easier for your partner to ensure that you get off too.

Don't just stick with the standard vibrator, there are many toys that you can bring into the bedroom. One good example is a remote control vibrator or another is a double toy that stimulates both holes at one time. Make sure to also stock up on lube and other essentials.

Try Some BDSM

BDSM is a huge world full of kinks and fun. On a base level BDSM has to do with Domination and submission where one partner takes charge while the other obeys. This is more than simply leading and following, it involves giving orders. Almost everyone likes Domination and submission to some degree, some people even enjoy taking turns with the roles.

As we mentioned though BDSM is a huge world that just starts with Domination and submission. Take a try at some of the various other activities such as bondage, humiliation, pain play, impact play, etc.

Drop Subtle Hints

Subtle hints that you can be naughty will add spice to the bedroom even when you are not in the bedroom. Little hints throughout the day will show your partner that you have a naughty side but they will also turn him on and make him crave the next time that you are in bed together. To make it even spicier, don't tell him why you are doing these little things. Leave him wondering.

Need an idea for a subtle hint that you can drop? Try giving him a slap on the butt when he leaves for work or kiss his neck from behind randomly. You can also make subtle sex jokes or sexy statements. Sending him a random text throughout the day works too.

The idea is that you are making him crave the sex more than he already does!

Get Examples From Videos

Still having trouble finding something that will bring that extra spice to your bedroom? Try taking some time to investigate using porn. Whether you enjoy the porn or not it can be great for finding ideas that might interest you and/or your partner.

Be adventurous when taking a look at these websites, you aren't going to get too many ideas by watching vanilla porn. Try some kink porn or something a little more intense. That will give you even more ideas. Just be careful to be slow when entering the world of kink.

You have a lot of different things that you can bring to the bedroom in order to spice things up in the bedroom. These are just some of the ideas that you can take into the bedroom to enhance your experience. Just remember to pick ideas that both you and your partner will enjoy.

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