Handy Guide for Better Understanding of BDSM Dominatrix

The dominatrix is perhaps the most widely recognised part of BDSM culture. Just the name alone evokes a powerful image, typically of a woman clad in all black while inflicting pain on a cowering man, typically via a whip or paddle.

Depictions of dominatrices in film and TV have helped reinforce this idea, with the dominant female role one of the most widely portrayed BDSM roles in media. Yet the dominatrix has been around for a long time, being one of the core roles in BDSM culture, attracting both dominant females and submissive males that enjoy the unique power dynamic shared between the dominatrix and her partner.

Of course, a dominatrix is much more than a woman wearing fetish gear while dominating a man. There is a lot of nuance to the role of dominatrix, differing from each individual, and the aspects of BDSM that they use is also varied.

To help give a better understanding of what a dominatrix is, check out our handy guide that covers all things you should know about a dominatrix!

Definition of Dominatrix

A dominatrix is the name given to any woman that takes a dominant role in BDSM. Her role varies from each person, with the domination taking on many forms depending on the preferences of those involved, with verbal and physical domination being some of the most common roles.

While any female that takes on a dominant role in their BDSM activities can be considered a dominatrix, the term typically refers to a female that is hired to perform a dominatrix role, with paying clients requesting to be dominated in various ways depending on their kinks and fetishes.

BDSM refers to various erotic activities that fall into distinct categories like dominance and submission, bondage and discipline, and sadism and masochism. People that practice BDSM take on defined roles for these activities, with one being dominant while the other is submissive, along with people that go-between both roles (known as a switch).

Why Do People Visit a Dominatrix?

Despite BDSM becoming more acceptable in the mainstream thanks to movies like Fifty Shades, many aspects of it remain a huge taboo. This means that people that have certain sexual desires, such as physically or verbally dominated by a woman, are too embarrassed to pursue it in their private life.

Rather than be judged for their kinks, people can hire a professional dominatrix that helps provide the sexual fulfilment that is otherwise lacking in their life. Dominatrices are skilled and experienced in all aspects of BDSM, making it a safe space for someone to pursue their kinks and fetishes, especially those that are considered more extreme than your usual vanilla activities.

Moreover, a good dominatrix enjoys their job! They make the experience of being spanked, whipped, or verbally humiliated much more enjoyable for people that are turned on by these fetishes, providing them with satisfaction that is often hard to achieve in their private life.

In fact, the best dominatrices focus on building a close connection with their subs. The entire goal is to provide them with a safe, satisfying experience, giving them the opportunity to explore their deepest desires in a judgement free environment.

What Does a Dominatrix Do?

This differs from every dominatrix! Remember, BDSM covers a wide range of kinky practices, so there is a lot of variety to what people enjoy. Some love just bondage, while others are more into sadism and masochism, while many prefer verbal domination over anything physical.

As a result, most dominatrices take on a variety of roles depending on the preference of their client. Of course, the one constant is that no matter what they are doing, the dominatrix remains firmly in charge, dominating the entire experience for the enjoyment of the submissive person.

Broadly speaking, a dominatrix dominates a submissive person, usually a man. How she dominates varies from each individual, whether it is physical, verbal, or a combination of each. The roles are usually based on the kinks of the sub.

For example, someone that enjoys bondage might want a dominatrix to tie them up in various complex ways, possibly incorporating other aspects of BDSM such as spanking or tickling.

Many men with sadism and masochism fetishes find fulfilment from a dominatrix. These people find it a big turn on to be physically dominated, such as being spanked or whipped, while others love the idea of being verbally dominated or humiliated.

When verbal domination occurs, roleplaying usually takes centre stage. The sub takes on whatever role they desire, with the dominatrix dominating them to the point of complete humiliation, with many people getting a lot pleasure from this, despite the fact they are never even touched!

What a Dominatrix Won't Do

It is important to understand that a dominatrix doesn't provide the same types of services as an escort. They don't do oral or sex for money, with most rarely ever being touched by their sub unless providing prior consent.

Many people confuse the two, expecting the dominatrix to provide other sexual services outside of a BDSM role. This is not the case, as many dominatrices actually provide services for people already in a relationship.

Of course, many dominatrices are not professionals, instead taking on the distinct dominant role in their BDSM activities in their private life. If a woman and her partner enjoy taking on dominant and submissive roles respectively, then she can consider herself a dominatrix too.

Given the wide varieties of kinks and fetishes that submissive people desire from a dominatrix, most will have a list of things they don't do, although this is typically the more extreme things that are unconventional even in the BDSM community.

What to Expect?

While every experience with a dominatrix is unique, here are some things that you might expect from your encounter:

Fetish Clothing

Any good dominatrix has a varied wardrobe to help immerse herself in the role. This is often fetish wear, with PVC and leather outfits commonly used, while kinky lingerie, high heels/boots, and sexy costumes widely used by most.

While the submissive person may not have specific attire for the occasion, it is fitting for a dominatrix to decide how the slave/sub presents themselves to her. This could be things like a ball gag, face mask, or unique fetish wear that the sub enjoys.

Props

Unsurprisingly, a dominatrix has all kinds of props to explore your fetishes with. Again, what she uses depends entirely on the sub's kinks and preferences, with a massive range of props and toys available for BDSM activities.

What is used depends on what categories of BDSM are being explored, with certain toys and props suited for specific practices. For instance, someone with a masochism fetish enjoys receiving pain, in which case the dominatrix will use props for restraining and inflicting pain, such as whips, floggers, paddles etc.

Common BDSM props that a dominatrix might use include:

• Whips
• Floggers
• Paddles
• Ticklers
• Restraints (e.g. handcuffs, bondage rope)
• Bondage tape
• Ball gag
• Nipple clamps
• Collar and leash
• Chastity device
• Cock and ball toys

A Fun Time

Expect an amazing experience from a dominatrix. She provides a service like few can, so anyone with unique fetishes, kinks, and general interest in BDSM should expect an unforgettable experience with a professional dom!